If you’re moving away from your Phoenix apartment and leaving your significant other behind, it can be tough. Long distance dating isn’t easy whether you move 2 hours away or across the country. If the relationship is worth the difficulties involved, then these long distance relationship tips should help.
To Break-up or Not Break-up
The first thing you have to ask yourself is, “Is this relationship worth the time and effort that’s involved in keeping up a serious long distance relationship?” Some reasons why it may not be a good idea to continue a relationship after you move include:
- You’ve only been dating for a short period of time…several weeks or a few months.
- Lack of trust is a huge issue in the relationship.
- You don’t plan on being within proximity of each other within the next few years.
- Commitment to a relationship is not one of your top priorities.
- Keeping up regular contact via phone, email or messaging is not possible or feasible.
Choosing To Go The Distance
However, if you’ve been dating for several years, you’re not going to want to break off a connection with this person so quickly. The move may be temporary, for a year or so, and you’re hoping to eventually live near or with this person again in the future. If you and your significant other decide that staying together is the best for both of you, then check out the long distance relationship advice below for some helpful tips:
- Realize that it’s not “forever.” If you have plans to be together in the future, think about this rather than how you don’t get to see that person right now.
- Keep in touch everyday or frequently. It’s important to share details about your everyday life with your significant other. It evokes a sense of trust and closeness while being so far apart.
- Show affection. Just because you aren’t within physical reach doesn’t mean you can’t show your significant other that you love him or her. Tell them on the phone, send cards or packages in the mail and send an email just to say you’re thinking about them. These little details don’t take a lot of effort, but they show the other person that you haven’t forgotten them or care less for them.
- Keep your priorities straight. If you have plans to call your significant other at a specific time, don’t put it off. Make time for the other person just like you would if you lived near each other.
- Keep up communication. Make your feelings known to your partner. If you’re feeling lonely or have other concerns, it’s best to talk it out before the issue snowballs into something bigger. Be sure to consider your significant other’s concerns as well.
- Have a plan before you leave. Set up rules and expectations about the relationship with your significant other. Talk about your future plans and how you’re going to communicate.
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Easier said than done, right? Well I want it to be the other way around!
Well said, finally a good report on this stuff